I had an unpleasant experience on the internet yesterday. I had posted the following comment in a private group I belong to on Facebook. It is a triathlon based group that has been nothing but warm and friendly over my past year of participation.
I will admit, I wanted to hear that I am not the only one who doesn’t like circle swimming with people who aren’t doing the same workout I am. But, I did expect to hear form some people that thought what I did wasn’t the bets way to handle it.
For a day the comments were very polite and generally on my side or at least understanding of what I did. On the second day I got a comment that really got under my skin and hurt. Essentially they said that my actions were rude and lame and I should have allowed them to swim with us. Another person then brought up that for newer swimmers the pool could be a very intimidating place and not being allowed to circle swim into the lane could have been off-putting. I can tell you I wasn’t rude when I told the person I would rather not circle swim but I will concede that it was kind of lame. I tired to echo that sentiment but was then told that what I did was a “D!*K move”. Also, how would I have felt if it was my only time to swim and I wasn’t let in to circle swim. I stopped replying because I didn’t think it would serve any purpose.
A few words in my defense here. I ALWAYS share my lane happily with anyone who asks. I even intentionally swim on one side just to make my lane more inviting and open to others. If I show up to the pool and the lanes are all full with two people I wait until I can get in a lane that doesn’t require anyone to circle swim. I would rather cut my workout short, but get in as much of my quality structured workout as possible. And I don’t want to ask others to have to accommodate me circle swimming with them.
The part that really hurt was that the comments made me feel like they thought I was not an encouraging fellow triathlete. This really upset me; all the way to tears last night. I feel like this is so far from the truth about me and how I interact with others in endurance sports. I was surprised how much this hurt. I guess if I didn’t want somebody to call me out, I shouldn’t have posted it in the first place.
I guess if you want to be open in social media, you have to expect this to happen from time to time. I am not looking for validation that I was right or wrong on this. I just wanted to share this because it felt important to illustrate how much social media interactions can affect you.